Choosing Your Hard
There’s a moment in one of Glennon Doyle’s We Can Do Hard Things podcast episodes with Kelly Clarkson where they talk—raw and real—about what it means to do something terrifyingly hard, like ending a marriage. They speak not just as celebrities, but as women, mothers, humans navigating heartbreak. And one thing rings loud and clear: Life is hard. No matter what.
Marriage is hard.
Divorce is hard.
Staying in a marriage that feels like it’s breaking you can be excruciating.
Leaving a marriage that has been your life’s foundation can feel like losing part of your identity.
It wasn’t until my mid-thirties, knee-deep in job and kids and life that I finally began to understand that there is no perfect path, no easy road. But there is choice and intentionality and bravery.
When the Hard Choice is Divorce
If divorce becomes the path you need to walk, it doesn’t have to be a battlefield. In fact, it shouldn’t be.
The collaborative divorce process offers an alternative to the traditional courtroom drama. It’s a legal approach that prioritizes respect, transparency, and emotional safety. Instead of tearing each other down, collaborative divorce invites both spouses to work together—with the support of trained professionals—to make decisions that honor your shared history, create space for each of your pain, and protect your family’s future.
This process allows you to:
Protect your children’s emotional well-being
Create solutions that work for your family in a private, confidential setting
Preserve your dignity and integrity
You Can Do This
Whether you’re choosing to leave (or someone has made that choice for you), this truth remains: You can do hard things. You can do them scared. You can do them unsure. You can do them one breath at a time.
And when you make the hard choice that aligns with your truth, there is light on the other side. Not perfect light, not a fairy tale ending. But peace, clarity, and closure are there for the experiencing.
So take the next step. Talk to someone. Ask the hard questions. Cry if you need to. And know that whatever path you walk, you're not walking it alone.
If you’re considering a collaborative divorce or want to explore what this process could look like for your unique situation, our team is here to walk beside you with care, respect, and compassion. You deserve support as you navigate the hard things.
